Erin Spahr Therapy

Support for Parents & the Professionals Who Serve Them

Serving clients in Maryland and North Carolina

You’re exhausted, overstimulated, and moving through your days in survival mode—wondering why parenting, relationships, or just life in general, feels so much harder than you expected.

You might notice growing resentment toward your partner, or feel invisible in your own home. Perhaps you’re questioning your ability to keep showing up, feeling guilty for snapping or shutting down, and carrying the weight of expectations—your own and everyone else’s.

It’s not that you don’t love your kids or care about your family. It’s that you’ve been stretched too thin, too often, with too little support. The strategies you used to rely on may no longer work, and despite your best efforts, you’re left feeling anxious, disconnected, or full of self-doubt.

More than anything, you want to feel like yourself again. To show up with more patience, more clarity, and more presence—for your kids, your relationships, and yourself.

You’re holding so much together—but inside, it’s starting to feel like too much.

I get it.

In my work with mothers and primary caregivers*, I offer a grounded, nonjudgmental space to explore the joys, grief, rage, and identity shifts that often come with mothering and caregiving. Together, we challenge the internalized pressure to “do it all,” reconnect with your values, and build the confidence to parent in ways that feel authentic and sustainable. I help you see how you’re not failing—society is—and we work to untangle emotional labor, rebuild trust in your instincts, grow your capacity to advocate for yourself and others, and honor both your needs and your child’s.

I offer support for fathers and masculine-aligned or non-binary parents navigating the unique pressures and expectations that often come with caregiving in a patriarchal culture. Together, we challenge restrictive norms around masculinity and explore new ways of showing up—with emotional attunement, clarity, and connection that reflect your values. Whether you’re adjusting to a new transition, trying to become a more engaged partner, or working to break generational patterns, therapy offers space for empathy, self-reflection, and lasting change in your parenting and relationships.

For therapists and healers, I offer therapy and professional consultation that supports you in managing burnout, aligning with your values, and staying connected to your own humanity while holding space for others. Together, we explore your patterns, protect your energy, and cultivate a sustainable practice rooted in integrity and care.

Across all of my work, I integrate EMDR, parts work, and attachment-based parenting support to help clients process trauma, develop self-compassion, and create more connected relationships—with themselves and the people they love. My practice is neurodiversity-affirming, and I bring my lived experience with ADHD into the room in ways that foster attunement and trust.

As a therapist specializing in perinatal mental health and relationships, I support mothers, parents of all genders, and fellow therapists in navigating the complex emotional terrain of caregiving, identity, and relational life.

My work is rooted in attachment theory, trauma healing, and a feminist, anti-patriarchal lens, always centering your lived experience with compassion and honesty.

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Get to know Erin.

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What People Are Saying

"Erin is the real deal - an expert therapist and clinical supervisor. She has the "it" factor that can't be learned in school. Erin is my top referral, especially for women experiencing perinatal challenges like postpartum depression and anxiety."

Maryam Elbalghiti-Williams

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-C, LICSW, CCTP-II

"I have worked with Erin for over a decade. She is a highly skilled therapist for new moms, individuals, and couples. She is compassionate and thoughtful. My clients rave about her, appreciating feeling validated and learning new insights and skills."

Sharon Fisher

Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, MS, PMHNP

Erin Spahr Therapy, PLLC provides teletherapy for individuals living in Maryland and North Carolina, using a HIPPA-compliant video platform that conveniently brings quality mental health treatment right to you. Research shows that online treatment can be just as effective as face-to-face treatment and has many additional benefits, especially in today’s environment.

Take the time you need to feel well.

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